There a many stories of physical, emotional, financial abuse and disrespect, at the end of the discourse the victim bill say "but I love him and I know he loves me... they just need to change" The truth if the matter is its not love.
False concepts of love are the greatest detriment to human concepts of love. False concepts of love open us up to the wrong people in our lives, they make us gullible to users and abusers.
Lets look at some false toxic concepts of love.
1. It is not love when he physically abuses you, disrespects and dishonors, humiliates you, bankrupts you.
This kind of relationship occurs when you encounter a professional abuser. It is a result of ongoing emotional abuse. They will abuse you and and hurt you many times . each time you reach a breaking point and you are about to leave this relationship, they quickly switch and become your knight in shining amour. They quickly become everything you desire, they become your dream girl or boy and become your ideal mate. This cycle continues and usually the victim will lose a lot of years in this kind of relationship. You quickly need to identify that this is not love and make the necessary decisions before it's too late.
2. Choosing to be with the wrong person that to be by yourself.
One of the greatest fears know to man is the fear of being alone. Society conditions us to be joined to someone before we figure out who we are, society reinforces this message to the point that we are made to believe that if you don't have someone attached to you there is something wrong with you.
Our society has pushed us to a people that must be joined with somebody to feel valuable. This diminishing the concept of individuality, results in a tremendous fear of being alone.
Most people have never had an extended period of alone time, ever in their life. You cannot recall a season in your life where you've had at least 6 months or a year to yourself. You've probably filled those spaces with people that you knew were not good for your life, you chose to be with the wrong people that to be by yourself, choosing to be miserable with the wrong person that to learn to be happy by yourself as an individual. This is usually the driving force why many people engage in these false, toxic concepts of love.
You need time to figure out who you are, what your goals are before your consider taking in a partner to spend the rest of your life with. A lot of people become stuck with the wrong person because of this.
It's not love, it's the fear of being alone. You fear being viewed by society as a misfit.
3. Attachment to the familiar.
You call it love but the truth is you've just been engage to them for so long. It's far let that what you deserve but it's what you're familiar with. In this kind or relationship you tell yoursell "Why try something new even though I'm not fulfilled. When dysfunction becomes the norm, perceived alternatives are difficult.
4. When you have a soul tie.
A soul tie is when your soul are united to someone else, and that “tie” is binding us to a person we don't want to be bound to, and is hampering our efforts at moving ahead in life.
A person (usually the woman) gives him or herself sexually to someone expecting that the intimate act of intercourse would create an intense bond that would lead to deeper levels of commitment in their relationship. But soon she discovers that her sexual partner was taking advantage of her need for intimacy and used her vulnerability to get laid. Of course, this leads to a person being emotionally and spiritually bonded to somebody that they deeply resent!
In most cases, when you have an unhealthy soul tie, you defend your right to stay in a relationship with the person that your soul is tied to, even though it is negatively effecting or even destroying the important relationships in your life: husband, wife, kids, parents, etc.)